Not having an answer to that question brought up a sense of shame in me. Equally, the thought of answering it conjured up feelings of fear. I was convinced of my unworthiness. Because that’s the thing with belief systems- we fucking believe them! I was willing to argue and defend my place as an unworthy man.

It’s possible that a lot of underlying fears and anxiety experienced, stems from an unconscious desire to be on someone else’s path; a belief that someone’s else’s path is better and more fulfilling than yours.

If one needs to be helped then a codependency quickly forms between you (the helper) and those ‘needing’ to be helped.

Clear Your Resentment. Resentment is a libido killer. Own Your Desires. Too often sexual desire is shamed or unexpressed. This will create inner shutdown and disconnection.

It’s common for a man living in our culture to grapple with such challenges in secret. Body shame and/or cock shame is still the sort of challenge that gets pushed into the shadows and left out of the conversation.

If overwhelm, existential dread, procrastination or self doubt are dominating, that’s my cue to relax.

‘How I do ANYTHING is how I do EVERYTHING’

Dad life totally amplifies the need for that Yin/Yang equilibrium. This is the labour of love and a duty that brings me the deepest state of joy and fulfilment. I wouldn’t change it for the world.

Sometimes that means letting go of the people pleaser persona. Sometimes that means letting go of needing to be liked or loved by another. To live in a way that is self respecting; self loving.

1. What do you want to have or to do? (Even though you might be afraid of it)

A brother of mine, Brooke, gave me a piece of gold by saying, “kids spell love: T.I.M.E”. This means the best way to show our children that we love them is to give them our time in an undivided way.

When the body and mind are flooded with emotion (rage is a common one) it’s nearly impossible to get to the truth of the matter.

Does this thought align with a limited version of myself - or a limitless version of myself?

The truest leader lives inside. The next move to take can be found within.

There’s plenty going on in the world to trigger a worried state right now - and yet, our inner environment is always ours to master and manage.

Zoom out a little and apply the same idea to emotions, behaviours, thought forms and the outcomes in your life.

This world doesn’t owe me a debt. The universe; God; Source; doesn’t owe me a damn thing.

“How would your life change if you practiced radical acceptance instead of reaction and judgement?”